- Factors such as self-worth, self-competence and self acceptance all affect our level of self esteem and this is often co-morbid with people who are depressed. When a person is depressed they have a very negative perception of everything and any hope of change. When the self-esteem is lost it is common to feel worthless and often impossible to see what others could possibly see in the self, in a positive way. Unfortunately the self-esteem is often lost at periods where other life stresses or negative events are present and so develops a cycle of struggle, which is hard to break free from and where the person becomes lost.
If this is how you are feeling - it is time to seek help, to take time to be honest with yourself and make time to look at and acknowledge your accomplishments. The self-esteem is an active process and is therefore related to your behaviours and thoughts, past and present and the ability to accommodate personal growth and change. This means taking responsibility for your own existence, most importantly leading an active orientation to life rather than a passive one without hope, ultimately you have to make change happen. This involves being able to ask for help and when you need it, asking for help is still taking responsibility for change in your life and is the first step forward for that change.
I can help you evaluate the different areas within your life and it is possible that you will find that you take responsibility in some areas more than others, which is quite normal. However, what will also probably become apparent is that in those areas where you do take responsibility are also the areas where you most like yourself.
- change the way look at things
- change the way you choose to look at things
- change the way you respond to things
Avoiding self-responsibility allows you to become a victim of helplessness and hopelessness, allowing others to take your own personal power.
How I can help you:
The Emotional Needs Audit - follow this link to assess how well your emotional needs are being met in your life, now.
