The Emotional Needs Audit

How well are you meeting your innate emotional needs?  We all have programmed within us physical and emotional needs.  How we well we are dealing with life (mental health), depends hugely on how these needs are being met and how we repsond when they are not.  When these basic needs are not met and we fail to adjust, we begin to see a pattern for depression, anxiety conditions, stress, addictions, anger and so on.

Ask yourself these following questions and rate how well your emotional needs are being met, presently in your life.  (make a note - on a scale of 1-7, where 1 indicates your needs not being met at all, and 7 indicates the needs being met very well).

1. Do you feel secure in all major areas of your life, such as at home, work, environment, relationships?
2. Do you feel you receive enough attention?
3. Do you feel you give other people enough attention?
4. Do you feel in control of your life most of the time?
5. Do you feel part of a wider community?
6. Can you get privacy when you need to?
7. Do you have an intimate relationship within your life?  (where you are totally physically and emotionally accepted for who you are by at least one person, this may be a close friend)
8. Do you feel an emotional connection to others?
9. Do you feel that you have a status which is acknowledged?
10. Are you achieving things and are competent in at least one major area of your life?
11. Are you mentally and/or physically stretched in ways which give you a sense of meaning and purpose?

• You will most likely to be suffering in one form or another if your scores are generally low.
• If any one score is less than 3, this is likely to be a major stressor in your life.
• Even if only one score is very low, this can be significant enough to seriously affect your mental and emotional health.